Mark and Vanessa Harris are a retired military couple who have been married for 19 years. My conversation with them focused on transparency, effective communication and dealing with our past baggage. Vanessa made the point that married people should not expect our spouses to do our work for us. We each are responsibile for dealing with and healing from our past hurts. Mark reminded us how important effective commuication is in a marriage. Mark and Vanessa's episode was insightful.